You give up a lot when you become a parent, but your body should never be something you give up on. Despite what you may have watched other women go through and no matter what ideas you have about the female body after giving birth, there is no reason you can't get back into tip top shape after giving birth.
There are three simple things you need to do in order to restore your pre-pregnancy health after birth:
• Assessment
• Goals
• Action
That may seem overly simplistic, but it is in fact the basic recipe for accomplishing anything that you really want to achieve in life.
Assessment
As soon as you feel up to it, take all of your clothing off and look at yourself in a full length mirror. This needs to be done after you have given birth and have given your body at least a few weeks to reduce the swelling that is natural after giving birth. Don't torture yourself by doing this while the baby is still in the womb.
Now, assess what you think would have to be accomplished to feel comfortable with your body again. Maybe for you it's trimming up your thighs and rear end, but for someone else serious focus may be needed in the core of the body. This is a personalized journey, so just honestly assess what you think needs to be done to get your body back.
Goals
Now, it's time to pick up pen and paper and write down some goals based up on your assessment results. Get very specific here or your goals won't be easy to reach. For instance, rather than saying you would like to lose weight, state how many pounds you think would need to be lost. This will require stepping on the scale to get an accurate accounting of your starting point.
Other goals may be to tone or tighten up certain areas of the body or to lose fat from particular areas of the body. Note that you cannot force your body to lose fat just from one area of the body. You will need to focus on fat loss throughout the entire body to achieve that.
Make your goals as specific as possible and keep them tightly focused to your assessment results. Also, make sure they are realistic so you don't set yourself up for disappointment. Remember your life is not what it used to be prior to becoming a parent, so you may have less time now to devote to workouts.
Action
You will never get your body back just by writing down goals. You have to follow through with real action! This means performing workouts that will help achieve your goals and watching what you eat.
It is important to clear your workout schedule with a doctor and never to start working out before you are given approval. Also, if you are breastfeeding make sure you are not restricting your diet too much. You can choose healthier foods and that will help you meet your goals while feeding your baby higher quality nutrients.
The time to really get your body back is after your baby has grown some and you are physically and mentally ready to start working out on a routine basis. Give yourself time to adjust to your new life as a parent, then take action on those goals!
Saturday, 12 March 2011
A Terrific Look For Prom Dresses
Want to start a craze with prom dresses? Are you planning to make a statement in prom night by not necessarily putting on a lot of make-up? Well, fret no more! I am here to tell you just what you can put on to accomplish a nearly no make-up look without looking pale like a ghost.
Start out with a sparkling and sleek skin with a suitable facial soap and cream for your face. A toner or a clarifying lotion could furthermore aid in conditioning your facial skin even more. Now you have got the skin cleaned and softened, prepare to place a little liquid foundation to smooth out any spots or skin discoloration. If you've got none of these then you can certainly do away with foundation. Following that, if you have over plucked or thin brows, fill it in using an eyebrow liner or powder. What I always tell folks is always to pick one color lighter than their hair color. Eyebrows frame the face however, dark brows could make you appear mean and surly. After that, work with a bit of blush on your cheekbones then make sure your eye lids are clean, apply a little bit of natural or earth tone eye shadow and follow it with a quick eye liner. Then the most important thing to this look is the mascara.
Mascara lets you darken and lengthen your eyelashes to real movie starlet allure, and forms the core part of numerous women's make-up bags. Make the most of this particular crucial bit of makeup kit by using these 3 crucial mascara recommendations.
Tip One: Apply Mascara With A 'Zig Zag' Motion
Rather then basically sweeping the mascara brush from the root base of your lashes towards the tip in one downward (or upward) motion, agitate the brush forward and backward in a 'zig zag' action. This movement helps to decrease the odds of mascara clumps, as exactly the required amount of product is put on due to the short period the brush spends around the lashes. It may take a couple of goes to have this perfect, so practice well before performing it for real.
Tip Two: Use A Nice and clean Mascara Brush To End
If you want to avoid panda eyes - and let's be honest, who doesn't? - then it is important you get rid of every extra mascara out of your lashes when the application is finished. One method of making sure the quantity used is suitable is mentioned above, but it's best to check after the use also. The best way to do this is by using a thoroughly clean mascara brush, possibly one used in a mascara which has been washed clean, to sweep on the eyelashes and collect any unnecessary product.
Tip Three: Emphasize The Corners of one's eyes
For really glamorous eyelashes without appearing like you are caked in mascara, just apply the product to the edges of the eyes. This opens the eyes out without making your eyelashes look heavy with mascara.
Now I really hope I was able to convince you to start this trend to wear with any prom dresses. Having only a few dabs of blush along with a bit of lip gloss and lots of mascara, you'll seem fresh and dashing for your extraordinary evening!
Start out with a sparkling and sleek skin with a suitable facial soap and cream for your face. A toner or a clarifying lotion could furthermore aid in conditioning your facial skin even more. Now you have got the skin cleaned and softened, prepare to place a little liquid foundation to smooth out any spots or skin discoloration. If you've got none of these then you can certainly do away with foundation. Following that, if you have over plucked or thin brows, fill it in using an eyebrow liner or powder. What I always tell folks is always to pick one color lighter than their hair color. Eyebrows frame the face however, dark brows could make you appear mean and surly. After that, work with a bit of blush on your cheekbones then make sure your eye lids are clean, apply a little bit of natural or earth tone eye shadow and follow it with a quick eye liner. Then the most important thing to this look is the mascara.
Mascara lets you darken and lengthen your eyelashes to real movie starlet allure, and forms the core part of numerous women's make-up bags. Make the most of this particular crucial bit of makeup kit by using these 3 crucial mascara recommendations.
Tip One: Apply Mascara With A 'Zig Zag' Motion
Rather then basically sweeping the mascara brush from the root base of your lashes towards the tip in one downward (or upward) motion, agitate the brush forward and backward in a 'zig zag' action. This movement helps to decrease the odds of mascara clumps, as exactly the required amount of product is put on due to the short period the brush spends around the lashes. It may take a couple of goes to have this perfect, so practice well before performing it for real.
Tip Two: Use A Nice and clean Mascara Brush To End
If you want to avoid panda eyes - and let's be honest, who doesn't? - then it is important you get rid of every extra mascara out of your lashes when the application is finished. One method of making sure the quantity used is suitable is mentioned above, but it's best to check after the use also. The best way to do this is by using a thoroughly clean mascara brush, possibly one used in a mascara which has been washed clean, to sweep on the eyelashes and collect any unnecessary product.
Tip Three: Emphasize The Corners of one's eyes
For really glamorous eyelashes without appearing like you are caked in mascara, just apply the product to the edges of the eyes. This opens the eyes out without making your eyelashes look heavy with mascara.
Now I really hope I was able to convince you to start this trend to wear with any prom dresses. Having only a few dabs of blush along with a bit of lip gloss and lots of mascara, you'll seem fresh and dashing for your extraordinary evening!
The Secret How to Achieve the Perfect Airbrush Spray Tan
Tanning sprays that offer a realistic and workable alternative to sun exposure and tanning beds are hailed as the best possible solution for those who want a tan but not the risks associated with UV exposure.
Here are some tips and tricks to achieve the best and long lasting results when you use a home air brush tan kit -
• Before to plan to do the tanning spray treatment, remember to exfoliate your skin properly. This helps the solution stay on better, apply evenly and last longer. There should also be no lotions, or creams or other product build up on your skin either for these will prevent even and proper application of the spray tan
• Follow instructions on the product packaging for best results. If it says to keep on for X amount of time, follow the instructions, if it says don't get wet for X number of hours be sure to do that as well. Another tip - don't do vigorous exercise for some hours after - sweating will damage the results of the air brush tan as much as showering.
• Remember to wear loose clothing after the application because wearing tight clothes right on top of the newly applied spray tan is not going to give it enough time to set and you will have an uneven and patchy result.
• Drink plenty of water to keep the skin well hydrated - this helps to prevent skin drying off so that the air brush tan stays on longer
• Another way to keep skin hydrated and less likely to peel off along with the tan, is to moisturize regularly. Make sure there is no alcohol content (which could cause the tan to come off or cause streaking) or alpha hydroxyl acids (which gets rid of dead skin cells and hence the top layer of your tan as well).
Here are some tips and tricks to achieve the best and long lasting results when you use a home air brush tan kit -
• Before to plan to do the tanning spray treatment, remember to exfoliate your skin properly. This helps the solution stay on better, apply evenly and last longer. There should also be no lotions, or creams or other product build up on your skin either for these will prevent even and proper application of the spray tan
• Follow instructions on the product packaging for best results. If it says to keep on for X amount of time, follow the instructions, if it says don't get wet for X number of hours be sure to do that as well. Another tip - don't do vigorous exercise for some hours after - sweating will damage the results of the air brush tan as much as showering.
• Remember to wear loose clothing after the application because wearing tight clothes right on top of the newly applied spray tan is not going to give it enough time to set and you will have an uneven and patchy result.
• Drink plenty of water to keep the skin well hydrated - this helps to prevent skin drying off so that the air brush tan stays on longer
• Another way to keep skin hydrated and less likely to peel off along with the tan, is to moisturize regularly. Make sure there is no alcohol content (which could cause the tan to come off or cause streaking) or alpha hydroxyl acids (which gets rid of dead skin cells and hence the top layer of your tan as well).
The Secret to an Instant Mini Face Lift Without Surgery
Surgical options for looking better are many and varied (of course there is also the fact that different people have different views of what is 'good looking') but as in all surgery, cosmetic surgery can also, go wrong, and for many of us, going under the knife for such a seemingly vain reason is simply not an option!
So how to do you go about looking the best that you can, without actually getting a face lift or Botox injections or any other long list of other invasive and less invasive methods? Here are some tips that may translate as something of a mini face lift for you to consider -
A better posture - do you slouch or slump as you walk, sit and stand? Or do you hold yourself up straight, with pride and self confidence? Assume both; a good and a bad posture before your mirror, and see the difference between each. Holding your head up high will make your neck look longer and more slender, any jowls or double chin less evident and can add to your appeal.
Make up - Whether your skin is mid tone, or dark or fair, make sure that you pick the right colors for your skin color, and then take some help from a friendly online expert - youtube can offer you a number of tutorials on the subject or instruction DVD's and manuals will tell you how it's done.
Smile - It may be a cliché, but a smile does indeed increase your face value! It instantly ups your attraction, making a face appear happier, more approachable and more confident of itself. And if those little laugh lines do appear and the crow's feet become a bit obvious, wear them with pride; for they are a badge of honor of your years, and of having lived life!
So how to do you go about looking the best that you can, without actually getting a face lift or Botox injections or any other long list of other invasive and less invasive methods? Here are some tips that may translate as something of a mini face lift for you to consider -
A better posture - do you slouch or slump as you walk, sit and stand? Or do you hold yourself up straight, with pride and self confidence? Assume both; a good and a bad posture before your mirror, and see the difference between each. Holding your head up high will make your neck look longer and more slender, any jowls or double chin less evident and can add to your appeal.
Make up - Whether your skin is mid tone, or dark or fair, make sure that you pick the right colors for your skin color, and then take some help from a friendly online expert - youtube can offer you a number of tutorials on the subject or instruction DVD's and manuals will tell you how it's done.
Smile - It may be a cliché, but a smile does indeed increase your face value! It instantly ups your attraction, making a face appear happier, more approachable and more confident of itself. And if those little laugh lines do appear and the crow's feet become a bit obvious, wear them with pride; for they are a badge of honor of your years, and of having lived life!
3 Top Secrets Wealthy Women Use to Overcome Barriers to Creating Financial Freedom
When women reach a certain age, they begin to ask the important questions: "What will my retirement look like? Will I be able to maintain a specific lifestyle? How will money affect my sense of security?" Women typically are so immersed in the present day-to-day activities that they are too exhausted to think beyond that. No, not all women, but a good amount to make a difference.
What are the 3 big 'No-No's' that women find themselves doing that not only create barriers to financial success but actually prevent it from happening all together?
1. Not planning early enough. How many times have you said, 'I'll start that tomorrow" but tomorrow never came?
Financial Quick-Start: Map out your plan when you have your first experience with money. It's not too late, and it's never too early. Babysitting money, birthday money - it doesn't matter - map out your plan on how you will relate, save, spend and value the money that comes in and out of your life. Mothers, teach your daughters to become familiar and comfortable with money at an early age. The important piece is to start - your plan may change or grow, but it should be a plan that grows with you.
Put money and credit in your own name. Money and credit in your name is a sure way to boost your sense of security. Don't be hesitant to do this. Be proud and excited about the greatness of establishing your own accounts and credit ratings. Start small with bank accounts and credit, then expand into investments.
Putting money in your own name and knowing it is yours creates a feeling of security and independence. These two feelings build the foundation critical to living a financially independent life.
2. Closing the door to knowledge. Women don't speak up or ask questions when the financial planner comes around (if they have one). They fear looking uneducated or embarrassed about not knowing much about money. Or there's an attitude of "it'll take care of itself."
Financial Quick-Start: Read. Learn. Observe. Listen. Hire a financial planner. Get in the game. Expose yourself to several opinions on financial matters. Pretend you know what you are doing and the more you do it, the more you will learn. There is no shame in grabbing the money-lion by the tail and taking charge.
Learn what will make you money AND know what wastes your money. Read, read, and read again. There are great books out there for you to learn about money decisions, investing, income streams, and financial planning. Set a priority to grow your money enough to allow you to meet with a professional planner, accountant or someone you feel safe in asking questions and learning where to start.
The main purpose of knowing everything about your money is for you to make informed and responsible money decisions that will help your financial future instead of hurting it.
3. The "I-couldn't-handle-money-if-I-tried" thinking. This is thinking that will land you in the poor house. Actually, this is a defense mechanism designed to shield you from knowing the truth. The truth may be good, bad or ugly, but it's still the truth. And sometimes knowing the truth around your money can be scary.
Financial Quick-Start: Grow your confidence. To grow money, you have to feel good about it. And to do that, you must get in touch with your money. When control goes up, worry goes down. When worry goes down, security goes up and so does confidence. This means balancing your checkbook on a regular basis, knowing your rental or mortgage agreement at all times, opening and paying all bills on time, and reading your quarterly 401K reports.
You should expect more than the crumbs falling off the table. But, gee, you say, I have too many bills. Well, make a budget and stick to it. Sacrifice whatever is expendable (eating out, movie tickets, that cool smelling bottle of perfume) so you can get yourself into a power position with your money.
Decide what you can pay yourself each month then do it - no matter what! Start with 10% after taxes but no less than 5%. Before you know it, the dollars you are paying to yourself will start to add up!
What are the 3 big 'No-No's' that women find themselves doing that not only create barriers to financial success but actually prevent it from happening all together?
1. Not planning early enough. How many times have you said, 'I'll start that tomorrow" but tomorrow never came?
Financial Quick-Start: Map out your plan when you have your first experience with money. It's not too late, and it's never too early. Babysitting money, birthday money - it doesn't matter - map out your plan on how you will relate, save, spend and value the money that comes in and out of your life. Mothers, teach your daughters to become familiar and comfortable with money at an early age. The important piece is to start - your plan may change or grow, but it should be a plan that grows with you.
Put money and credit in your own name. Money and credit in your name is a sure way to boost your sense of security. Don't be hesitant to do this. Be proud and excited about the greatness of establishing your own accounts and credit ratings. Start small with bank accounts and credit, then expand into investments.
Putting money in your own name and knowing it is yours creates a feeling of security and independence. These two feelings build the foundation critical to living a financially independent life.
2. Closing the door to knowledge. Women don't speak up or ask questions when the financial planner comes around (if they have one). They fear looking uneducated or embarrassed about not knowing much about money. Or there's an attitude of "it'll take care of itself."
Financial Quick-Start: Read. Learn. Observe. Listen. Hire a financial planner. Get in the game. Expose yourself to several opinions on financial matters. Pretend you know what you are doing and the more you do it, the more you will learn. There is no shame in grabbing the money-lion by the tail and taking charge.
Learn what will make you money AND know what wastes your money. Read, read, and read again. There are great books out there for you to learn about money decisions, investing, income streams, and financial planning. Set a priority to grow your money enough to allow you to meet with a professional planner, accountant or someone you feel safe in asking questions and learning where to start.
The main purpose of knowing everything about your money is for you to make informed and responsible money decisions that will help your financial future instead of hurting it.
3. The "I-couldn't-handle-money-if-I-tried" thinking. This is thinking that will land you in the poor house. Actually, this is a defense mechanism designed to shield you from knowing the truth. The truth may be good, bad or ugly, but it's still the truth. And sometimes knowing the truth around your money can be scary.
Financial Quick-Start: Grow your confidence. To grow money, you have to feel good about it. And to do that, you must get in touch with your money. When control goes up, worry goes down. When worry goes down, security goes up and so does confidence. This means balancing your checkbook on a regular basis, knowing your rental or mortgage agreement at all times, opening and paying all bills on time, and reading your quarterly 401K reports.
You should expect more than the crumbs falling off the table. But, gee, you say, I have too many bills. Well, make a budget and stick to it. Sacrifice whatever is expendable (eating out, movie tickets, that cool smelling bottle of perfume) so you can get yourself into a power position with your money.
Decide what you can pay yourself each month then do it - no matter what! Start with 10% after taxes but no less than 5%. Before you know it, the dollars you are paying to yourself will start to add up!
The Art of Styling With Hair Sticks
Hair styling is an art and the better you master it, the brighter are your chances of improving your persona. It is interesting to find that every religion and culture nurtures its own sense of style. While westerners prefer open hair styles, women of the Orient prefer tying their hair in various kinds of buns.
There are a whole lot of options when it comes to choosing various bun styles, some of the best known being the cinnamon bun, the Chinese bun, the Chinese braided bun, the sock bun, the figure-eight bun, the hair knot bun, the Dutch braid bun, the half bun, the Japanese big bun, the ballet bun, and the loose bun. These different buns have their own charm but what draws gazes are the beautiful hair accessories adorning the bun.
One of the most popular hair accessories are the hairsticks which made its way as early as the emergence of early Egypt. These sticks were made of gold, silver, wood, ivory, and other metals and were mostly popular with the Romans, Egyptians, Greeks, and the Japanese. Later, hairsticks also made its way across the Chinese border and today they have become highly popular across the globe on account of the elegance they exude.
As part of tradition, hairsticks are still popular in Japan and China. The use of the highly decorative Kanzashi hair stick is very well-known in Japan. The Kanzashi hairstick reminds us of the Japanese Geisha women who dressed their hairs in big buns. Though the Geisha hairdo is traditional, yet it is loved by the modern generation. The Geisha hairdo looks best on women with long hair. However, women with short or mid-length hair need to play with their hair more so as to add volume to the bun.
For the Geisha hairdo, styling cream is applied to shampooed, dried hair. A comb is used to slightly tease the hair to create volume. The hair is then pulled into a high ponytail through a chignon foundation and secured using a bobby pin. Small sections of the hair are then wrapped and tucked under the chignon foundation. The final look is made complete by crisscrossing the decorative Japanese hair sticks through the chignon foundation.
Unlike the Geisha hairdo, a simple Chinese bun involves partitioning sections of the hair in two parts, rolling them over a Chinese hair stick and finally tucking them under the chignon foundation. Chinese hair sticks are mostly ornamental while Japanese hair sticks are based on floral or mythological motifs. Whatever be the theme or the design, hairsticks serve one great purpose - to highlight the beauty of women - reason enough to seal its popularity for generations to come
There are a whole lot of options when it comes to choosing various bun styles, some of the best known being the cinnamon bun, the Chinese bun, the Chinese braided bun, the sock bun, the figure-eight bun, the hair knot bun, the Dutch braid bun, the half bun, the Japanese big bun, the ballet bun, and the loose bun. These different buns have their own charm but what draws gazes are the beautiful hair accessories adorning the bun.
One of the most popular hair accessories are the hairsticks which made its way as early as the emergence of early Egypt. These sticks were made of gold, silver, wood, ivory, and other metals and were mostly popular with the Romans, Egyptians, Greeks, and the Japanese. Later, hairsticks also made its way across the Chinese border and today they have become highly popular across the globe on account of the elegance they exude.
As part of tradition, hairsticks are still popular in Japan and China. The use of the highly decorative Kanzashi hair stick is very well-known in Japan. The Kanzashi hairstick reminds us of the Japanese Geisha women who dressed their hairs in big buns. Though the Geisha hairdo is traditional, yet it is loved by the modern generation. The Geisha hairdo looks best on women with long hair. However, women with short or mid-length hair need to play with their hair more so as to add volume to the bun.
For the Geisha hairdo, styling cream is applied to shampooed, dried hair. A comb is used to slightly tease the hair to create volume. The hair is then pulled into a high ponytail through a chignon foundation and secured using a bobby pin. Small sections of the hair are then wrapped and tucked under the chignon foundation. The final look is made complete by crisscrossing the decorative Japanese hair sticks through the chignon foundation.
Unlike the Geisha hairdo, a simple Chinese bun involves partitioning sections of the hair in two parts, rolling them over a Chinese hair stick and finally tucking them under the chignon foundation. Chinese hair sticks are mostly ornamental while Japanese hair sticks are based on floral or mythological motifs. Whatever be the theme or the design, hairsticks serve one great purpose - to highlight the beauty of women - reason enough to seal its popularity for generations to come
How To Wear An Indian Sari
Wearing a Sari is an important part of being an Indian woman. It is a classic and elegant piece of clothing and hugely versatile. It is also one of the few pieces of clothing that is both comfortable and graceful.
When you buy your first sari, you don't have to worry about your size or height, one size fits all. It can hide your shape or accentuate your curves. It is all a matter of how you choose to wear it.
For some one who has never worn a sari, the process of dressing yourself may look difficult. But let us take you through dressing in the traditional style step by step.
Step one.
First of all, you will need a blouse that ends just below the bust and a floor length petticoat tied tightly to your waist. Make sure these two pieces match and compliment the color of the sari.
Step two.
Starting with the plain end of the sari, wrap it once around your waist and come back to your starting point. All the while make sure you are tucking the sari into your petticoat and make sure the hem touches the ground and is even and adjusted. You may want to make a few pleats to begin with to tuck into your petticoat. This will help secure it.
Step three.
Gather the pallu (the decorated end of the sari) and fold it into pleats. Bring this end once around your waist and drop it over your left shoulder. The length usually goes down to the back of the knee. Some people like to have it shorter or longer. It all depends on your personal preference.
Step four.
Next, you will work with the fabric rested on the front of your chest and wrap it around you, under your right arm, to make sure it is tight and worn well.
Step five.
Now you will have all the excess fabric of the sari in front of you, pulled tight and at waist height. Take the excess fabric and work with the right end, which will be the plain end, and begin to make pleats. The pleats will want to be about five inches across.
Wrap the sari between your thumb and little finger. This will give you the right sized pleats. Make about seven to ten pleats and then hold them up together so that they fall straight and even. Finally tuck the pleats into your waist, just left of your navel.
Step six.
Congratulations, you are now wearing your sari. Having the sari resting over your left shoulder will give you room to move around and use your hands. But if you are going to a nice weeding and you want to show off your pallu, then you might want to lower it from your shoulder and hold it in your hand.
Tips.
Make sure you are wearing your heels before you start dressing yourself in the sari.
You might want to use a safety pin to secure the pleats together near the navel and also at the shoulder to keep those pleats secure.
When you buy your first sari, you don't have to worry about your size or height, one size fits all. It can hide your shape or accentuate your curves. It is all a matter of how you choose to wear it.
For some one who has never worn a sari, the process of dressing yourself may look difficult. But let us take you through dressing in the traditional style step by step.
Step one.
First of all, you will need a blouse that ends just below the bust and a floor length petticoat tied tightly to your waist. Make sure these two pieces match and compliment the color of the sari.
Step two.
Starting with the plain end of the sari, wrap it once around your waist and come back to your starting point. All the while make sure you are tucking the sari into your petticoat and make sure the hem touches the ground and is even and adjusted. You may want to make a few pleats to begin with to tuck into your petticoat. This will help secure it.
Step three.
Gather the pallu (the decorated end of the sari) and fold it into pleats. Bring this end once around your waist and drop it over your left shoulder. The length usually goes down to the back of the knee. Some people like to have it shorter or longer. It all depends on your personal preference.
Step four.
Next, you will work with the fabric rested on the front of your chest and wrap it around you, under your right arm, to make sure it is tight and worn well.
Step five.
Now you will have all the excess fabric of the sari in front of you, pulled tight and at waist height. Take the excess fabric and work with the right end, which will be the plain end, and begin to make pleats. The pleats will want to be about five inches across.
Wrap the sari between your thumb and little finger. This will give you the right sized pleats. Make about seven to ten pleats and then hold them up together so that they fall straight and even. Finally tuck the pleats into your waist, just left of your navel.
Step six.
Congratulations, you are now wearing your sari. Having the sari resting over your left shoulder will give you room to move around and use your hands. But if you are going to a nice weeding and you want to show off your pallu, then you might want to lower it from your shoulder and hold it in your hand.
Tips.
Make sure you are wearing your heels before you start dressing yourself in the sari.
You might want to use a safety pin to secure the pleats together near the navel and also at the shoulder to keep those pleats secure.